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New on The Garden

Garden Discussion on Trust in BDSM by Garden Chat Topics Conservativehttp://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=1489&chapter=110/8/22 discussion of Trust in BDSM Garden Topic Chat on Vetting by Garden Chat Topics Conservativehttp://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=1490&chapter=110/5/22 Discussion about Vetting New Partners What We Want to Tell Our Younger Selves by Garden Chat Topics Conservativehttp://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=1491&chapter=19/17/22 Topic Chat What We Want to Tell Our Younger Selves How […]

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Trauma in BDSM 10/15

Every adult has gone through some form of trauma and has had varying success with healing that trauma. On Saturday 10/15 at 3:00 PM ET (8:00PM BST) Deb, The Kink Shrink, will be talking about Trauma in BDSM. Deb is a BDSM and sex and sexuality educator that writes about and runs/facilitates workshops, discussions, and […]

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Chat with Sero: Being Poly

Polygon? Polynomial? Polyphenols? Poly wanna cracker? On 10/12 at 9PM ET, Sero leads a chat on Being Polyamorous that’s not just for poly people! Yes, we know that polyamory is just wrong and should be wither multiamory or polyphilia but let’s just go with it on Wednesday evening!

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The New Garden Chat Calendar!

I have finally figured out how to get a reasonable calendar on, at least, our blog, though not on the site. (http://www.thebdsmgarden.com) Keep an eye out on the calendar to keep up with chat topics and add it to your own calendar (don’t worry, I’ll never know) by clicking the wee blue and white + […]

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A vet is someone who is qualified to treat sick or injured animals. A vet is someone who has served in the armed forces of their country, especially during a war. To vet someone is to investigate fully before being given a particular job, role, or position, especially one that involves military or political secrets. […]

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October is National Kink Month!

Best Practices for Explicit Prior Permission for Consent to Kink: 1. Did you agree to the specific acts you’re going to do together, including if there’s going to be any sexual contact like touching the breasts or genitals?2. Is everyone an adult and able to consent: they’re not under the influence, in subspace, having a […]

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How to be a Dominant

Last week, we were asked how one becomes a Dominant. Let’s chat about it this week! What does one have to do to be a Dom/me? Is it natural? Is there training? Study? Watching porn and imitating Christian Grey? Let’s chat together and try to answer one of the more difficult and common questions. Saturday […]