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Trauma in BDSM 10/15

Every adult has gone through some form of trauma and has had varying success with healing that trauma. On Saturday 10/15 at 3:00 PM ET (8:00PM BST) Deb, The Kink Shrink, will be talking about Trauma in BDSM. Deb is a BDSM and sex and sexuality educator that writes about and runs/facilitates workshops, discussions, and lectures in the UK, internationally, and online. She speaks and works with clients on anything BDSM, kinky, power, poly, psychology, kink life coaching, relationships, sex education, psychosexual issues, and general mental health. She is kinky, with 40 years of experience as a submissive and switch, and is also a qualified (The Wealden, The Link Centre, Psychosexual Training) insured therapist with a private practice & supervisor in the UK. She sees clients online and in person with over 8 years, 50K hours of experience, and 600+ hours of personal therapy.

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This is just a little slice of The Garden at www.TheBDSMGarden.com, a resource community for those already practicing, or wishing to learn the art and lifestyle of Domination and submission in their various forms and practices. In The Garden, guests learn and share the ideas and realities of pain mixed with pleasure and a moment or lifetime of consensual service. Beyond The Garden gate exists a growing collection of essays, definitions, and interactive amenities to assist the curious and the expert in self-discovery, learning, and fun. The following is an extract from the book Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns explaining Dominance, submission, and the common bonds we share. “In exchange for obedience by the submissive, the dominant agrees to care for and work toward the pleasure of both partners. Thus empowered by the sub, the dominant takes control of their scenes and agrees to abide by the limits she sets. . Some people extend D/S roles outside the bedroom, often referring to themselves as "slave" [or "submissive/ subservient"] and "master." Generally, these people consider themselves D/S "lifestylers".” Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism, Miller and Devon, Mystic Rose Books,1995, p. 9