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BDSM Hierarchy – Journal Prompt

On the Journaling channel in chat, chrissa asks:

Are you familiar with the BDSM hierarchy?
– Submissive needs
– Dominant needs
– Dominant wants/whims
– Submissive wants
Have you ever thought about what your needs are? How do you separate what a “need” is from a “want”? What kind of ways do you approach conversation if your needs aren’t being met? How do you reconcile when a Submissive and a Dominant’s needs are in direct conflict with each other? What happens when needs become wants and vice versa? Is that change even possible? What makes it happen?

Answer here, in chat, or even on your own journal.

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This is just a little slice of The Garden at www.TheBDSMGarden.com, a resource community for those already practicing, or wishing to learn the art and lifestyle of Domination and submission in their various forms and practices. In The Garden, guests learn and share the ideas and realities of pain mixed with pleasure and a moment or lifetime of consensual service. Beyond The Garden gate exists a growing collection of essays, definitions, and interactive amenities to assist the curious and the expert in self-discovery, learning, and fun. The following is an extract from the book Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns explaining Dominance, submission, and the common bonds we share. “In exchange for obedience by the submissive, the dominant agrees to care for and work toward the pleasure of both partners. Thus empowered by the sub, the dominant takes control of their scenes and agrees to abide by the limits she sets. . Some people extend D/S roles outside the bedroom, often referring to themselves as "slave" [or "submissive/ subservient"] and "master." Generally, these people consider themselves D/S "lifestylers".” Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism, Miller and Devon, Mystic Rose Books,1995, p. 9