On the Journaling Channel of chat, a prompt was offered by chrissa: I love finding quotes that say things so eloquently that I feel but can’t seem to express properly. That’s inspired this next topic: Do you have any meaningful quotes/songs/books that have spoken to or inspired your BDSM journey? Please share them here and […]
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This is just a little slice of The Garden at www.TheBDSMGarden.com, a resource community for those already practicing, or wishing to learn the art and lifestyle of Domination and submission in their various forms and practices. In The Garden, guests learn and share the ideas and realities of pain mixed with pleasure and a moment or lifetime of consensual service. Beyond The Garden gate exists a growing collection of essays, definitions, and interactive amenities to assist the curious and the expert in self-discovery, learning, and fun.
The following is an extract from the book Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns explaining Dominance, submission, and the common bonds we share.
“In exchange for obedience by the submissive, the dominant agrees to care for and work toward the pleasure of both partners. Thus empowered by the sub, the dominant takes control of their scenes and agrees to abide by the limits she sets. .
Some people extend D/S roles outside the bedroom, often referring to themselves as "slave" [or "submissive/ subservient"] and "master." Generally, these people consider themselves D/S "lifestylers".” Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism, Miller and Devon, Mystic Rose Books,1995, p. 9
This article from the BBC (the British Broadcasting Company, tyvm, you pervs) talks about how former dominatrix Kasia Urbaniak is now working to empower her female students to level the playing field when it comes to workplaces differences between men and women – and she’s using the skills she picked up in her profession. Check out […]
Most Recent on The GardenThe Garden, The Masque, and The WIKTT Archives will be down a couple times this week while our host deals with some stuff for us. Please be patient. I promise we will be back as soon as possible. I am starting our TOPIC CHATS back up after a long holiday suspension. […]
On the Journaling Channel of chat, a prompt was offered by Sleepmonger: I’d like to talk about trust. In my opinion trust is the foundation to each and every type of BDSM interaction. Whether it be negotiated playtime between top/bottom, or a long term D or M/s relationship, without trust everything we build up together […]
Awesomely, people trust me enough to ask questions and expect non-joking answers (which is good because I am supposed to have a clue.) Well, sometimes they get joking answers because I am afraid that I am a complete smartass – but I do offer serious opinions, too. Today, one of the ladies asked my opinion.what […]
On the Journaling Channel of chat, a prompt was offered by chrissa: What is a “real submissive” or a “real dominant”? Some additional information: Often times people put qualifiers on what it means to be real in this community. Examples of some stereotypes I’ve heard since joining the lifestyle (not necessarily directed at me, just […]
On the Journaling Channel of chat, a prompt was offered by chrissa: Does correction/punishment play a part in your dynamic? If you aren’t currently in a dynamic, is that something you expect or hope to be in place? Why or why not? As a submissive, what does correction do for you? How do you view […]
In-depth research suggests BDSM practitioners can experience altered states of consciousness that can be therapeutic. JAIMEE BELL16 February, 2021 for Big Thinkhttps://bigthink.com/sex-relationships/bdsm-submissive-therapy-benefits?rebelltitem=1#rebelltitem1 BDSM is an acronym encompassing a variety of sexual practices that include: bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism. The practice of BDSM usually consists of partners taking on specific roles in which one partner is […]
On the Journaling Channel of chat, a prompt was offered by chrissa: What is one area of BDSM that you’d like to explore that maybe you haven’t before? Answer here, in chat, or even on your own journal.