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HOW TO ENHANCE THE DOMINANT OR SUBMISSIVE TRAITS by FRR Mallory Conservative

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Bringing D/s into an estabished relationship.

Hints for Long Distance Cyber or Phone Training by FRR Mallory Conservative

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This is primarily oriented toward male submissives! It is designed to offer ideas, hints and suggestions based on some common male fetishes such as dog training, cross dressing, light humiliation etc.    

HARD LIMITS by FRR Mallory Conservative

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One of the first questions asked of a new submissive is “What are your limits?”    

HANDICAPPED in BDSM by FRR Mallory Conservative

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The handicapped in the BDSM community are often overlooked and many assume they do not exist. They do.    

HAIR AND SCALP TUGGING by FRR Mallory Conservative

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As an erotic, sensual practice — hair and scalp tugging are quite popular. For some people there is a desire for a leisurely massage, for others the hunger for a sharp, eye watering tug.    

FORMAL COLLAR or SLAVE COLLAR by FRR Mallory Conservative

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The Formal Collar (frequently called the Slave Collar) is the representation of the final stage of commitment between the Dominant and submissive.    

FINITE ENERGY by FRR Mallory Conservative

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Within the BDSM community there is a growing conscious awareness of the manipulation of energy, the movement of that energy from one person to another and back as well as the flow or blockage of that energy.    

Finding Your Dominant by FRR Mallory Conservative

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Are you looking for a magic spell? That unique formulae that will guarantee you the results you want? Well, there isn’t any trick. Not really.

Fetish by FRR Mallory Conservative

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An object of extreme or irrational reverence or devotion. The often pathological displacement of erotic or libidinal interest sufficient to stimulate actions of worship.    

ETIQUETTE ~ by FRR Mallory Conservative

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The forms required by good breeding or prescribed by authority or direction to be displayed, observed and implemented in social or public life.     

ENERGETICS: Master the Power of Transformation by FRR Mallory Conservative

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Energetics is about realizing, accessing and manifesting our potentials through awareness to energy.    

Energetic ~ Language by FRR Mallory Conservative

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We have biological preSet structure to how our mind works and potentially to specific types of language usage.    

Empty Space by FRR Mallory Conservative

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It is important to remember that a Dominant or submissive who is in ‘space’ will remember differently, or that space will alter how that memory ‘feels’.    

Emotional Abuse by FRR Mallory Conservative

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Abuse is to institute, practice or otherwise implement a corrupt concept.     

Emergence by FRR Mallory Conservative

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Emergence is a term sometimes used to describe the process that many people experience when they ‘find’ either themselves or the lifestyle of BDSM.    

EDGE PLAY by FRR Mallory Conservative

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To me, the peak of EDGE PLAY is within the mind itself. It is to take the submissive further, to trust deeper, fly higher than they have ever believed possible    

Domination and Karma by FRR Mallory Conservative

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A dominant can easily be equated with a guru. There is a certain lure to adopting the role of teacher, mentor, guide, owner, parent, sometimes even god or goddess as part of the interpretation of ‘being dominant’.    

Dominant vs Master / Dominatrix vs Mistress by FRR Mallory Conservative

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A Dominant is a person with a dominant aspect in their personality. A Master is a Dominant with significant real life BDSM experience.  

DOMINANT SPACE by FRR Mallory Conservative

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Space . . . the beckoning edge of the mind. It defies ready description, challenges us with its illusive presence yet exists in the same undefinable way that all intangible things exist.    

DOMINANT DROP by FRR Mallory Conservative

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The detaching of a Dominant due to excess energy release!

Do No Harm! by FRR Mallory Conservative

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The first choice and decision you must make when approaching this lifestyle is the apparently simple choice to Do No Harm!    

DESPOIL ~ To strip, rob or plunder. by FRR Mallory Conservative

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Check your potential partners reputation. Ask questions. Ask subs they used to be with. Listen to the itch in your brain that something isn’t right. Be safe.

DESENSITIZING by FRR Mallory Conservative

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Does frequent scening or the ongoing interaction of a full D/s relationship desensitize the submissive?    

DENIAL by FRR Mallory Conservative

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Fear and denial of who we are, offer some of the greatest devastation’s to the human spirit.     

CUSTOMARY DUNGEON ETIQUETTE AND PROTOCOL by FRR Mallory Conservative

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When in doubt – be courteous. Good manners are always appropriate especially in the event of unexpected situations where you are unsure of what to do or say.    

CREATING YOUR FIRST SCENE by FRR Mallory Conservative

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Up till now it has all been long distance, detached from reality. Now what?    

AFTERCARE by FRR Mallory Conservative

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Affectionate care and attention following any type of traumatic or mentally challenging event.   

thebdsmgarden

This is just a little slice of The Garden at www.TheBDSMGarden.com, a resource community for those already practicing, or wishing to learn the art and lifestyle of Domination and submission in their various forms and practices. In The Garden, guests learn and share the ideas and realities of pain mixed with pleasure and a moment or lifetime of consensual service. Beyond The Garden gate exists a growing collection of essays, definitions, and interactive amenities to assist the curious and the expert in self-discovery, learning, and fun. The following is an extract from the book Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns explaining Dominance, submission, and the common bonds we share. “In exchange for obedience by the submissive, the dominant agrees to care for and work toward the pleasure of both partners. Thus empowered by the sub, the dominant takes control of their scenes and agrees to abide by the limits she sets. . Some people extend D/S roles outside the bedroom, often referring to themselves as "slave" [or "submissive/ subservient"] and "master." Generally, these people consider themselves D/S "lifestylers".” Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism, Miller and Devon, Mystic Rose Books,1995, p. 9