Author: thebdsmgarden

This is just a little slice of The Garden at www.TheBDSMGarden.com, a resource community for those already practicing, or wishing to learn the art and lifestyle of Domination and submission in their various forms and practices. In The Garden, guests learn and share the ideas and realities of pain mixed with pleasure and a moment or lifetime of consensual service. Beyond The Garden gate exists a growing collection of essays, definitions, and interactive amenities to assist the curious and the expert in self-discovery, learning, and fun. The following is an extract from the book Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns explaining Dominance, submission, and the common bonds we share. “In exchange for obedience by the submissive, the dominant agrees to care for and work toward the pleasure of both partners. Thus empowered by the sub, the dominant takes control of their scenes and agrees to abide by the limits she sets. . Some people extend D/S roles outside the bedroom, often referring to themselves as "slave" [or "submissive/ subservient"] and "master." Generally, these people consider themselves D/S "lifestylers".” Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism, Miller and Devon, Mystic Rose Books,1995, p. 9
Uncategorized thebdsmgarden 

Bondage Benefits: BDSM Practitioners Healthier Than ‘Vanilla’ People

https://www.livescience.com/34832-bdsm-healthy-psychology.html By Stephanie Pappas May 29, 2013 Despite the fact that their sexual preferences are listed in the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders as potentially problematic, people who play with whips and chains in the bedroom may actually be more psychologically healthy than those who don’t. A new study finds that […]

Uncategorized thebdsmgarden 

Sensual Domination

https://www.kinkly.com/definition/6750/sensual-domination?ts=1612473390 By Kinkly April 16, 2018 Definition – What does Sensual Domination mean? Sensual domination is a new style of dominance which focuses on delighting all of the senses. When practising sensual domination, both partners agree to take turns assuming and giving up control so they can both enjoy sexual pleasure. Sensual dominance celebrates pleasure over pain, […]

Uncategorized thebdsmgarden 

Empathy in Submission?

There’s a long-held thought that female submissives are soft and squishy and care about everyone with a sweet empathy that exudes from their very pores. This study suggests that that’s really just not the case. In fact, it may be that being submissive reduces empathy for the pain of others. I’m not taking sides here […]

Uncategorized thebdsmgarden 

How dominatrix psychology can change your understanding of power

The dominatrix profession demands a mastery of human psychology and the ability to command life’s many challenges. By KEVIN DICKINSON 16 January, 2020https://bigthink.com/personal-growth/dominatrix-life-lessons?rebelltitem=1#rebelltitem1 Professional dominatrixes develop an intuitive understanding of the human psyche at its most revealing. The techniques pro-dommes use to control their clients can be translated to other endeavors, especially finances and work. […]

Uncategorized thebdsmgarden 

That Time I Tried BDSM Therapy

Not all therapists take the gentle approach. ROC MORIN OCTOBER 26, 2015https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/10/when-bdsm-is-therapeutic/412249/ Whips, chains, collars, gags, blindfolds, handcuffs, knives… My eyes roam the soundproof room in which we are enclosed. The subject of our conversation is BDSM (Bondage, Domination, Sadism, and Masochism), a discipline that includes a wide variety of consensual power-exchange activities suggested by […]

Uncategorized thebdsmgarden 

Meaning Quotes? – Journal Prompt

On the Journaling Channel of chat, a prompt was offered by chrissa: I love finding quotes that say things so eloquently that I feel but can’t seem to express properly. That’s inspired this next topic: Do you have any meaningful quotes/songs/books that have spoken to or inspired your BDSM journey? Please share them here and […]

Uncategorized thebdsmgarden 

Work and life lessons from a former dominatrix

This article from the BBC (the British Broadcasting Company, tyvm, you pervs) talks about how former dominatrix Kasia Urbaniak is now working to empower her female students to level the playing field when it comes to workplaces differences between men and women – and she’s using the skills she picked up in her profession. Check out […]

Uncategorized thebdsmgarden 

Trust – Journal Prompt

On the Journaling Channel of chat, a prompt was offered by Sleepmonger: I’d like to talk about trust. In my opinion trust is the foundation to each and every type of BDSM interaction. Whether it be negotiated playtime between top/bottom, or a long term D or M/s relationship, without trust everything we build up together […]