From https://www.insider.com/bonding-intimacy-coordinator-end-50-shades-of-gray-bdsm-portrayals-2021-2 Olivia Troy is an intimacy coordinator for Netflix’s “Bonding” and Showtime’s “Billions.” Troy works with actors and directors to create safe and inventive sex scenes. She wants to do away with the “50 Shades of Gray” style of BDSM on film. Olivia Troy was an intimacy coordinator before the role had a name. […]
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This is just a little slice of The Garden at www.TheBDSMGarden.com, a resource community for those already practicing, or wishing to learn the art and lifestyle of Domination and submission in their various forms and practices. In The Garden, guests learn and share the ideas and realities of pain mixed with pleasure and a moment or lifetime of consensual service. Beyond The Garden gate exists a growing collection of essays, definitions, and interactive amenities to assist the curious and the expert in self-discovery, learning, and fun.
The following is an extract from the book Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns explaining Dominance, submission, and the common bonds we share.
“In exchange for obedience by the submissive, the dominant agrees to care for and work toward the pleasure of both partners. Thus empowered by the sub, the dominant takes control of their scenes and agrees to abide by the limits she sets. .
Some people extend D/S roles outside the bedroom, often referring to themselves as "slave" [or "submissive/ subservient"] and "master." Generally, these people consider themselves D/S "lifestylers".” Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism, Miller and Devon, Mystic Rose Books,1995, p. 9
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On the Journaling Channel of chat, a prompt was offered by Sleepmonger: From what I’ve seen online there seems to be two separate thoughts on safewords in CNC situations. One is that there should always be an immediate out as a form of communication that things aren’t feeling right. The other is that having that […]
On the Journaling Channel of chat, a prompt was offered by Sleepmonger: When it comes to BDSM experiences and interactions what sort of frequency do you need or expect in your relationships? Answer here, in chat, or even on your own journal.
https://www.livescience.com/34832-bdsm-healthy-psychology.html By Stephanie Pappas May 29, 2013 Despite the fact that their sexual preferences are listed in the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders as potentially problematic, people who play with whips and chains in the bedroom may actually be more psychologically healthy than those who don’t. A new study finds that […]
On the Journaling Channel of chat, a prompt was offered by Sleepmonger: I’d like to pose a more specific question than I have in the past. I’m curious how those of you who are submissive to someone who identifies as a sadist reconciles the fact that this person who deeply cares about you also enjoys […]
https://www.kinkly.com/definition/6750/sensual-domination?ts=1612473390 By Kinkly April 16, 2018 Definition – What does Sensual Domination mean? Sensual domination is a new style of dominance which focuses on delighting all of the senses. When practising sensual domination, both partners agree to take turns assuming and giving up control so they can both enjoy sexual pleasure. Sensual dominance celebrates pleasure over pain, […]
There’s a long-held thought that female submissives are soft and squishy and care about everyone with a sweet empathy that exudes from their very pores. This study suggests that that’s really just not the case. In fact, it may be that being submissive reduces empathy for the pain of others. I’m not taking sides here […]
The dominatrix profession demands a mastery of human psychology and the ability to command life’s many challenges. By KEVIN DICKINSON 16 January, 2020https://bigthink.com/personal-growth/dominatrix-life-lessons?rebelltitem=1#rebelltitem1 Professional dominatrixes develop an intuitive understanding of the human psyche at its most revealing. The techniques pro-dommes use to control their clients can be translated to other endeavors, especially finances and work. […]
Not all therapists take the gentle approach. ROC MORIN OCTOBER 26, 2015https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/10/when-bdsm-is-therapeutic/412249/ Whips, chains, collars, gags, blindfolds, handcuffs, knives… My eyes roam the soundproof room in which we are enclosed. The subject of our conversation is BDSM (Bondage, Domination, Sadism, and Masochism), a discipline that includes a wide variety of consensual power-exchange activities suggested by […]