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This is just a little slice of The Garden at www.TheBDSMGarden.com, a resource community for those already practicing, or wishing to learn the art and lifestyle of Domination and submission in their various forms and practices. In The Garden, guests learn and share the ideas and realities of pain mixed with pleasure and a moment or lifetime of consensual service. Beyond The Garden gate exists a growing collection of essays, definitions, and interactive amenities to assist the curious and the expert in self-discovery, learning, and fun. The following is an extract from the book Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns explaining Dominance, submission, and the common bonds we share. “In exchange for obedience by the submissive, the dominant agrees to care for and work toward the pleasure of both partners. Thus empowered by the sub, the dominant takes control of their scenes and agrees to abide by the limits she sets. . Some people extend D/S roles outside the bedroom, often referring to themselves as "slave" [or "submissive/ subservient"] and "master." Generally, these people consider themselves D/S "lifestylers".” Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism, Miller and Devon, Mystic Rose Books,1995, p. 9
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PLAC: Cambridge Becomes 2nd US City to Legalize Polyamorous Domestic Partnerships

https://gopher-orca-jrn3.squarespace.com/cambridge March 9, 2021 Cambridge, Massachusetts On March 8th, 2021, the Cambridge City Council passed a historic domestic partnership ordinance aimed at recognizing and protecting polyamorous and other multi-partner families and relationships. The ordinance was developed with detailed input from the newly formed Polyamory Legal Advocacy Coalition (PLAC), and is the first of what advocates […]

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#TerribleSafeWord is trending, but should all couples have a safe word?

What makes a good one?  By: Sophie GoulopoulosFEBRUARY 17, 2021For News.com.auhttps://www.bodyandsoul.com.au/sex-relationships/sex/terriblesafeword-is-trending-but-should-all-couples-have-a-safe-word/news-story/73066e77611211c77d3ff600ec0765b7 You’ll hear this often: communication is one of, if not the most important element to a happy and healthy relationship. While ‘safe words’ have their origins in the BDSM community, they can be useful for all couples. When you hear the term ‘safe word’, you […]

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Study shatters the myth that BDSM is linked to early-life trauma

By JAIMEE BELL05 January, 2021 for Big Think https://bigthink.com/sex-relationships/bdsm-psychology-trauma?rebelltitem=2#rebelltitem2 No, being interested in BDSM does not mean you had a traumatic childhood. BDSM is a kind of sexual expression and/or practice that refers to three main subcategories: Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/submission, and Sadism/Masochism. It has been widely speculated that many BDSM practitioners or people who enjoy the […]

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Now you can find a Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Therapist on Psychology Today!

From https://ncsfreedom.org/ Exciting news from the APA’s Division 44 Committee on Consensual Non-monogamy:Our initiative for inclusive therapist directories continues to deliver, as Psychology Today has also updated their directory so people can search for therapists who are experienced in relationship diversity and alternative relationship styles and structures. Stay tuned to our channels for more information […]

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How an intimacy coordinator is putting an end to ’50 Shades of Gray’ BDSM portrayals

From https://www.insider.com/bonding-intimacy-coordinator-end-50-shades-of-gray-bdsm-portrayals-2021-2 Olivia Troy is an intimacy coordinator for Netflix’s “Bonding” and Showtime’s “Billions.” Troy works with actors and directors to create safe and inventive sex scenes. She wants to do away with the “50 Shades of Gray” style of BDSM on film. Olivia Troy was an intimacy coordinator before the role had a name. […]

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New on The BDSM Garden

What’s new on The BDSM Garden and one of the designs in our store: https://www.zazzle.com/store/thebdsmgarden/products HOW TO ENHANCE THE DOMINANT OR SUBMISSIVE TRAITS by FRR Mallory Conservative http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=1381Bringing D/s into an estabished relationship. Hints for Long Distance Cyber or Phone Training by FRR Mallory Conservative http://thebdsmgarden.com/efiction/viewstory.php?sid=1393This is primarily oriented toward male submissives! It is designed to offer ideas, hints and suggestions […]

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Safewords in CNC – Journal Prompt

On the Journaling Channel of chat, a prompt was offered by Sleepmonger: From what I’ve seen online there seems to be two separate thoughts on safewords in CNC situations. One is that there should always be an immediate out as a form of communication that things aren’t feeling right. The other is that having that […]