“Real” – Journal Prompt
On the Journaling Channel of chat, a prompt was offered by chrissa:
What is a “real submissive” or a “real dominant”? Some additional information: Often times people put qualifiers on what it means to be real in this community. Examples of some stereotypes I’ve heard since joining the lifestyle (not necessarily directed at me, just heard the argument made): 1. You don’t do pain or you don’t like being degraded, you aren’t a real sub. 2. You only want to care for me, you aren’t a real dom. But there are also examples like: you only want to dom/submit when you’re horny.
Are they still real? Or just kind of kinky? Do you see a difference between a BDSM kink vs. being in the lifestyle?
Answer here, in chat, or even on your own journal.